Mufti Menk explains why Khadijah (R.A.) chose our Prophet (S.A.W.) for Marriage
When Prophet Mohamad (S.A.W.) returned to Makkah from his trade trip to Sham, Khadijah (R.A.) saw the Prophet (S.A.W.) very trustworthy in managing his wares and he also saw great blessings in his merchandise that he had never seen before. In addition, Khadijah's (R.A.) male slave named Maisarah also told her about the gentle nature of the Messenger of Allah (S.A.W.) and his noble qualities.
Although Prophet Mohammad (S.A.W.) married Khadijah (R.A.) before his prophet-hood, most scholars believe that our Prophet (S.A.W.) married Khadijah (R.A.) during the month of Rabi al-Awwal.
So Khadijah (R.A.) seemed to find the man she had longed for. Even though there were a lot of influential people of that time who tried to marry her, Khadijah (R.A.) refused everything. Then Khadijah (R.A.) also poured out her feelings to her friend named Nafisah bint Muniyyah, and Nafisah went immediately to the Messenger of Allah (S.A.W.) revealed Khadijah's (R.A.) intentions and encouraged the Prophet (S.A.W.) to marry her. He (S.A.W.) agreed and discussed this with his uncles. Then the Prophet (S.A.W.) went to Khadijah's (R.A.) uncle and proposed to her. Not long after that, the marriage was held. The marriage was attended by the families from the Banu Hashim and the leaders of the Mudhar tribe. In this marriage, the Prophet (S.A.W.) gave a dowry (Mehr) in the form of 20 young camels. This marriage took place after two months the Prophet returned from Sham.
There are several opinions among historians regarding the age of Khadijah (R.A.) when she married the Messenger of Allaah (S.A.W.). The most agreed opinion that she married at the age of 40 and Prophet Mohammad’s age was 25. Another virtue of Khadijah (R.A.) is that she was the first woman to be married to the Messenger of Allaah (S.A.W.). The Messenger of Allah (S.A.W.) did not marry another woman until Khadijah died.
Khadijah (R.A.) was the noblest woman and Prophet Mohammad (S.A.W.) said about her:
"The best woman is Maryam the daughter of Imran and Khadijah" (Sahih Bukhari: 3432)
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