We often find ourselves at a crossroads in life, not knowing which way to go. It can be scary making a decision that single-handedly holds power to change our situation, especially when our future depends on it.
However, that’s what this life is all about. Without encountering trials, how else would we learn the actual purpose of life? That is, to find Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala and turn to Him at all turns of life.
The truth is that our life becomes an utter chaos without the Almighty’s guidance. Allah SWT has blessed His believers with multiple communication channels, such as Salah, Istikhara, Duas, Quran, and Sunnah, so that we are better prepared to make the right decisions in life.
Case in point, here’s a short 4-step Islamic guide on how to make hard decisions under Allah’s guidance:
1- Lead By Reason
The very first thing to do when facing a difficult decision is to stay calm and be the voice of reason instead of jumping into the first solution that pops into your head.
When we act without deliberation and make impulsive decisions, it only leads to more problems than solutions.
2- Consult, Consult, Consult
Once you have a clear understanding of your problem, it is best to consult with a pious figure who has the best intentions for you. Reflecting with the Quran and Sunnah should also be a given since Allah SWT has already established these as the ultimate guidance for the whole Ummah.
Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala says in the Quran:
“And those who have responded to their Lord and established prayer and whose affair is [determined by] consultation among themselves, and from what We have provided them, they spend.” – [Ash-Shuraa: 38]
3- Perform Istikhara
Praying two Nafl of Istikhara Salah is another way of asking Allah’s guidance when struggling to make the right decision.
This is how to perform Istikhara the correct way:
1- Perform Wudu.
2- Say two cycles of ritual prayer (Nafl Salah).
3- After finishing the ritual prayer, recite Durood-e-Ibrahim.
4- Do Allah’s Dhikr. For example: You can say “Allahu Akbar” any number of times.
5- Recite Dua-e-Istikhara.
6- When saying the word "ھذا الامر" while reciting the Dua of Istikhara, specifically think about the reason for performing this Salah.
7- Recite Durood-e-Ibrahim in the end to conclude the Salah.
4- Have Tawakkul
Last but yet the most important step, have Tawakkul once you have made the decision. Trust in Allah, and accept that whatever He has chosen for you is for the best.
Verily, Allah SWT says in the Holy Quran:
"...And when you have decided, then rely upon Allāh. Indeed, Allāh loves those who rely [upon Him]." – [Al-Imran: 159]
Once you find the clarity you need to make a sound decision, everything else automatically falls into place. May Allah SWT give us the chance to do good in this world and be better Muslims. Ameen.
